This month’s parenting tip is all about you, the parent. You may have dreams that were put on hold when you had kids, or like in my case, your kids inspired your dreams. Regardless of how your dreams and goals came to be, follow them and see where they might lead you. Being a parent means sacrificing a lot of yourself and often times, we forget our own identities. We simply don’t have the time and energy to focus on what is important to us. I’m here to tell you that if you want something badly enough, you can find the time. Don’t let your title as Mom define who you are. Remember those dreams of one day owning your own business or starting that book you always wanted to write? They will continue to just remain dreams if you don’t act and make them a reality.
As some of you may know, I recently finished my children’s music CD, and it was a huge accomplishment for me. I started working on it over three years ago and with a ton of dedication and hard work, I completed my mission and it felt incredible. I am a stay at home mom of two, ready to give birth any day to my third little man. My husband travels and I am often a single married mother during the week, left to take care of the kids, the dog, the house, the bills, and if I can find the time, myself. While I wouldn’t trade in my life for anyone else’s, it’s definitely tiring, challenging at times, and full. Even so, I never made excuses because I was too tired or too busy. I kept going, worked my butt off and was driven, which in the end, allowed me to complete my goal and follow my dream.
My kids see how hard I have worked and even though they are 5 and 3, have always had a really cute interest in what I was doing. I involved them in my music, since of course they are my biggest fans. They listened over and over and over to my music and we had a blast singing, dancing and learning together. I have overheard my 5 year old tell his younger brother multiple times that they both need to help Mommy around the house, behave and listen, since Mommy is always working so hard. I was taken back when he first said it, thought it was so sweet and was really proud at such a mature observation. It also confirmed the fact that kids know what Mommy and Daddy are up to. My boys see me complete all my Mommy tasks, as well as witness the long hours spent on my computer writing. They have even accompanied me to the studio as they were curious to learn what Mommy always did there, while they were at school. It was a very special experience for all of us and their cute voices will be forever stamped on my CD. It’s important to me that they know Mommy has many roles and that Mommy has a good work ethic. I want to teach them that women CAN do it all, or at least attempt to. I want to send the message that if you work hard enough, you can accomplish anything. Not only am I extremely proud of myself, but to know my children are proud of me means the world. A while back, while watching television, we saw a children’s music video and my oldest said to me, “Mommy, your music is so much better”. While I don’t encourage being negative towards someone else’s success, it did make me smile.
The message I want to deliver in this month’s inspirational tip is that if I can do it, you can do it. Sounds cheesy, but it’s very true. So what are you waiting for? Take your dream, make a plan and get started. No matter if it takes you a few months or a few years, work towards completing your goals and before you know it, you’ll be there. For those of you who have already started on your journey, congratulations!
Now that I have given birth to my musical baby, I am going to give birth to my third baby and spend a lot of time with my family. I will of course keep everyone posted on when my CD is available to the public. I cannot wait for you and your family to listen, learn, dance and sing along to my Magical Music!
Now it’s your turn…please share what dreams and goals you have been waiting to accomplish.