I have heard from so many moms lately about how stressed and worn out they all are. One of them would be me. We can all relate to the ever popular, “If only there was one more hour to the day” and the, “I just can’t get it all done” slogans.
Most days we feel like we are drowning. Some days we get thrown a life preserver, some days we just don’t have it in us to fight anymore, and other days we have the strength to get our head above water and actually swim to shore.
For every item we cross off our to-do list, two items are added. It is as if we are walking up a down escalator.
The good news is we are sharing these thoughts with one another, which allow us to feel part of a sisterhood instead of feeling alone and the odd man (woman) out.
The bad news is we are spending our weeks struggling instead of living. We are missing the joy and only experiencing the frustrations and obstacles in our way.
It is kind of ironic that we spend our days waiting for them to be over, yet we yearn for them to be longer so we can fit it all in. We have all been there and it stinks.
Staying positive helps and when we put things in perspective, we realize there is always someone else going through something more difficult than us. Who knows? Perhaps our crappy days may be someone else’s great days. Regardless, these are our lives and it is what we are going through right now.
Every stage of parenting is difficult. When we have babies, we are adjusting to our alien bodies, our gigantic leaking boobs, our sleep deprived minds and pretty much living in our own world. As our kids get older, the minutes we gain back are replaced with other tasks, including countless activities, homework, carpools and errands.
If I were someone without children reading this article, I sure wouldn’t want to join the mommy club. Would you? Parents always sound so miserable, drained and on edge. “No thank you”, that person would say. How sad.
Yes, life with kids is hectic and insane at times (all the time), but all the amazing moments and the pride we experience watching our kids strive outweigh the bad. Right?
Mother’s Day is upon us and it is of course a time to relax and let others pamper you for a while. (At least that is the plan). It is also a time to reflect on motherhood and give ourselves a yearly report card.
Have we grown as a mother? Are we the mother we thought we would be? Are we the mother we want to be? How can we improve on motherhood? How can we create more time for ourselves? How can we get to know our children better? What in our lives can we cut back on to create more time in our day? What would our children say we could improve upon as their mom? Have we been good role models? How has motherhood and busy schedules effected our relationships and marriages?
These are important questions to ponder. Some that are simple to answer, while others, not so much. The journey of motherhood is all about failures and triumphs. We ask ourselves what we could have done better to prepare for tomorrow, appreciate the successes we had today and try not to dwell on the mistakes we made yesterday.
On Mother’s Day, your family will be celebrating you. You will be recognized for your dedication, hard work and unconditional love you offer them.
You cannot forget to celebrate yourself, whatever that means to you. Be selfish instead of selfless. Forget the to-do list, leave the dishes and have someone else fold the laundry for a change. Your duties are on pause on this annual holiday honoring your motherly skills.
364 days a year you feel exhausted, overwhelmed and under-appreciated. Take this one day to get re-energized and recognized and to feel triumphant and valued.
We are strong, we are confident, we are super-heroes.
We are astonishing human beings.
We are weak, we are insecure, we are average.
We are human.
We are mothers!
TOGETHER WE CAN MASTER MOTHERHOOD!™