It’s My Mother’s Day And I Can Vent If I Want To:

mothers dayThat’s right!  This is my Mother’s Day and instead of writing a mushy gooey article about how much I love being a mom (which we all know to be true), I am going to tell it like it is.

Don’t get me wrong, of course I am looking forward to celebrating being a mom on Sunday, BUT I am reminded every day, all day, that I am a mom.  I am proud to say I make a conscious effort to celebrate motherhood on a daily basis, especially when I am in a patient mood and my kids are behaving. 🙂

I am a mom, yes, but I am also a wife, a friend, a daughter, a businesswoman, a fitness addict, a cook and queen of all things household.  Wow, that’s a lot for one person to balance.  Today I told my friend that I felt like I was drowning and it got me thinking.  It’s not the first time I could barely come up for air and it won’t be the last.

The end of the school year is approaching and that brings end of year gifts, teacher appreciate week assignments, getting ready for camp, schedule adjustments, blah blah blah.  It’s a lot, especially when you have multiple kids, but you already know all of this.

If it wasn’t for my calendar, I would have no idea what was going on in my life and that’s the truth.  Do my kids have free dress day tomorrow? I don’t know…let me check my calendar.  Do I have a meeting tomorrow?  Your guess is as good as mine…let me check the calendar.  Do I have lunch with my friend this week?  No clue…let me check my life’s organizer.

I try not to complain too much in front of the kids when my plate is full because I really attempt to  practice what I preach.  However, I am human.  Today on the car ride home from school, I mentioned I had to write special notes for the teachers and was concerned when I would find the time.  My seven year old said, “don’t complain about it…just do it and get it over with”.  My first thought was, “wow, my kids actually hear what I am saying to them?”.  My second thought was, “yep, I will do it tonight and get it done”.  It’s cool when what you attempt to teach your kids actually comes back around to teach you.

I had a really tough week and today my four year old doesn’t have school.  At first I thought, argh, I really need one more day to get all my things done BUT I have to say, spending time with him at the Zoo was exactly what I needed.  Sometimes we need to let our to-do lists be, and take a mental break from it all.  It will sure be there when we return.

We all need to vent and let it out…it just feels good.  I want to state for the record that I am not complaining, but merely stating what has been on my mind over the past few weeks.  My head feels like it’s going to explode with thoughts and like I tell my kids, it’s better to let it all out instead of bottle it all up.  Okay so here we go.  Some are parenting related and some are not but as I wrote above, we are not just moms.

  • My jaw is killing me (TMJ…my husband still thinks it’s an excuse) and this ugly mouth stint I have to wear makes me spit on people.  It’s not pretty.
  • I need to get my four year old swimming lessons but without adding that additional day to the week, let’s call it Extraday, I have no clue when I am going to fit it into our busy schedule.  Will be he 10 with floaties on?
  • I am planning a large party and it is very stressful (who knew balloons could be so complicated), but I am super excited.  Please don’t rain, please don’t rain… Oh and how the USPS lost half my invites is beyond me. ARGH!
  • Did I mention I turn 40 next week…perhaps this is why I feel the need to purge my thoughts…it’s been 40 years…what do you expect? 🙂
  • I feel like I haven’t had a second to catch up with friends and family.
  • Yesterday when I came home from picking up the kids, within two seconds of opening my front door, my 60 pound dog was barking at me, my four year old was screaming and repeatedly telling me how big his penis is and my older boys were each telling me about their day at the same time, as if I could hear or process anything at that point.  I also started screaming.  Hey, if you can’t beat ’em, join ’em.
  • I wonder if when people cancel on you for appointments, they understand what went into putting them on your schedule in the first place?
  • Why can’t people signal?  Is it that hard?  I have a theory that if you are a selfish driver who doesn’t consider anyone else, you must be a selfish person in your life.  I haven’t tested it out yet but I think I am onto something.
  • I do laundry every single day yet for some reason, no one has underwear or their favorite socks.
  • I hate doing bills!  Speaking of, I think tonight is the night I allocated to paying them.  Suddenly I feel like I have a drawer to organize.
  • My kids are wrestling on the floor now and I must stop writing to be a parent.

Okay, I am back.  As I write this I am now smiling because yes, these are all annoying, stressful and irritating problems but as I look at my three kids, now sitting quietly on the couch together playing their favorite video game, (I threatened to take away dessert and they stopped wrestling very quickly), I know I have it all.  When I can come up to breathe, things don’t seem so maddening or that important.  Here’s a perfect example:

The other day after we finished dinner, my son was helping me clean up and put the extra peas into a container.  He then proceeded to turn the container over on the way to the fridge.  Yep, you guessed it…they all fell out onto the floor as the cap wasn’t secured.  I had just swept and was just about done cleaning up from our meal.  He looked at me as he assumed I would freak out but instead, I decided to laugh.  It was funny and I was able to think before I reacted, which allowed me to take a path of humor instead of insanity.

What could have been a speech about paying attention and not messing around, turned into a giggling session with all the kids, which felt great!  If there’s one thing I love doing, it’s laughing!   When he asked me why I didn’t yell, I told him, “What’s the point?  It was a good laugh and not a big deal…now clean it up”.  My oldest then said, “sometimes yelling just makes a situation worse and Mommy decided there was no need”.  Are my kids awesome or what?  (Remind me I said that next time I feel like selling them).

Wait…good feeling gone and back to reality as my four year old just told me his weenie points to the left.  What is it with his penis obsession?  Oh right…that never changes. 🙂

This Mother’s Day I am going to spend time with the kids, relax a bit and think how thankful I am for my boys.  That is until one of them barges into my room and wakes me up from what will be the only nap I have ever taken since I had kids, just to tell me they missed the toilet and peed on the wall, have a new favorite color or they are thirsty and dad is sleeping. 🙂